My mother has been single since she and my dad divorced in 1985.
She reads romance and sci fi novels, travels to Mexico each year with her girlfriends, is addicted to shopping on ebay, and for the most part, leads a relaxed and content life.
I've been testing the waters in the dating pool now for about a year. At times I enjoy it. It's nice to do things on my own, and prove to myself that I can do anything I put my mind to.
It's also nice to go out on several dates and meet new people. (And come on, the free dinner and wine doesn't hurt either!)
Some dates are good. Some... you just have to laugh about, becuase you can't really cry in front of the idiot, who just so happens to be talking about his ex wife who cheated on him and got pregnant with someone elses kid while they were still married..... yikes. Spare me.
One date, the guy even asked me to pay for half the meal, and while riding down the elevaor to the parking garage said "Next time you're so paying for the whole thing, you're an expensive date!"
Which is why all you can do is laugh about it, and enjoy the free food and drinks. (Especially the drinks.)
Whenever my grandparents call me, which I enjoy hearing from them as I only see them about twice a year, the first question that comes out of their mouth is: "How's your boyfriend, dear?" Grandma, you know that (ex's name) and I have been apart for over a year. "Well do you have another boyfriend?" No, Grandma, and i'm perfectly happy being single. "Oh don't worry, you'll find someone soon, and get married and have babies." Oh thank goodness Grandma, I was scared for a second there, but now that you've reassured me... well I feel much better. "Just don't end up like your mom, being single in your 50's is just sad" OK Grandma, got it. How about I just buy 10 more cats, and I can be the creepy cat lady I always dreamed of being??
If you're single, everyone's first reaction is, "Oh well don't worry, you'll find someone soon."
If you're dating someone, it's "You guys have been together for 3 years and he hasn't proposed yet?? I'm sure he will soon.."
If you're married its" "When are you two planning on having children? Don't wait too long! You want to be around for their wedding day, don't you?"
When is it ever enough?
My sister married at 24. (keep in mind, i'm 23) She now has two kids, whom I absolutly adore. She and her husband still show affection to each other, and are very good parents.
As far as I know, my Grandma never pushed her like she does me.
You know what? I'm happy. I'm in no hurry to settle down, being that if I married someone too soon, it would most likely end in divorce anyways, and who am I kidding... I don't have the energy for that crap. (Or the money!!)
To my Grandma: I'm fine, really. And i'm sure I'll meet someone someday who makes me happy. But for now, i'm in no hurry.
PS. Please take down that picture of me and (ex's name) off your refrigerator. I look horrible in it.
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